Remaining Resilient During Change

By Donna Tosches, LCSW, CEAP

Change in our personal and professional lives can take its toll. There are many events that can increase stress in our lives; even positive events such as marriage, the birth of a child, starting a new job, and having a child leave home. It’s not uncommon for people to become anxious during these times, but if we learn how to build our resilience we can minimize the negative physical and emotional effects. A diversified approach to increasing resilience uses different strategies before, during and after the event.


• Nourish a supportive network of family and friends
• Practice relaxation techniques regularly such as exercise, deep breathing, prayer
• Give yourself permission to have fun and be creative
• Take care of yourself with proper nutrition, regular movement and adequate rest
• Understand that stress is a normal part of life


• Challenge beliefs that increase your stress
• Stop before your thoughts escalate into “worst case scenarios”
• Know what you can control
• Establish a plan of action
• Use positive self-talk


• Continue to connect with your support network
• Continue to take good care of you
• Congratulate yourself for being resilient

We’ve all heard the phrase, “the only thing constant is change,” so start preparing today. You can use the 12 Pathways on the Living Well website to learn other ways to increase your resilience during change. You can also call the Living Well Network at 901-762-8558 to talk to a counselor. We can direct you to resources in the community that can help. Be treated well!

Donna Tosches, LCSW, CEAP is the Director of the Living Well Network and the Employee Assistance Program at Methodist Le Bonheur Healthcare.